Alright, so I have some possibly good news!
Here at UCM we (obviously) have a counseling center. The services are free to all students and staff. You go for your first appointment and then they decide if they are the right place for you. If not they will find a specialist in the area and refer you to them. Once last semester I had called to ask about therapy for GID. They said that they do not do long term therapy, that they only do one or two appointments. I then moved back to St. Louis for the summer and after a month or so found out about a place called The Spot.
The Spot basically offers lots of free services for youth that cannot afford it, including counseling. Since I didn’t find out about this until a month into the summer, I didn’t have time to get my 3 months in before leaving for school. I would wait until next summer, but I’m not sure if I’ll be in St. Louis. Plus, its a good 30+ minute drive from my mom’s house so I’m not sure I’d have the gas money. I did go to a few appointments at the Spot, but for anxiety not GID.
When I came back to school I decided to continue seeing someone about the anxiety. I set up an appointment at 9am (meaning I had to wake up at 8am to be there by 8:30 for paperwork). While at this appointment I talked to the counselor about me being transgender and how I would come here for that if I could. She asked why I couldn’t, and I told her that I was told they do not do long term therapy. She said that they do not do long term therapy, but that to them long term is 2 years or something like that.
So I looked on the counseling center website and found someone whos interests include LGBT(insert alphabet here) issues. I sent her a decent length email about myself and wanting to see someone for GID. I also included information such as the minimum length of therapy, and etc. I included my phone number and asked her to call me soon. She sent me an email stating that she was going to talk to her collegues, and her supervisor, and try to figure out what to do. She also said they want whats best for me. My reply to that was that this is the best for me because even if they find someone else in town I couldn’t afford it.
Yesterday, after waking up from a nap, I got a call from Suzan (the new counselor). She said that her and the other staff at the counseling center decided to leave it up to me. She said I could come in for a consultation, we can talk about what she can and cannot do for me, and then I can decide if I’d like to see her. This would mean I would switch to her from the other counselor. She said she wanted to set up an appointment before my next one with the other counselor. She gave me three different days and times and asked which one worked. Again, I just woke up from a nap, so I said ‘give me just a second I’m looking for my phone to look at a calender…. oh…wait… I’m on my phone.’ I decided Monday at 10am would work for me.
So, Monday I will be doing this consultation, and hopefully will have a plan to get therapy. This way I can at least have my T letter. Of course, I don’t have the money to start T yet, but I just applied to 5 more jobs!